10 Signs Your Relationship is At the Verge of Falling Apart

10 Signs Your Relationship is At the Verge of Falling Apart


We Like to talk about equal right in respecting each other's interests, in theory it's all good but as soon as it get down to practice, everything appears in a different light. What seems to be an equality turns out to be a feminist.

The question is can you see it at first glance?, do you believe that financial independence from your partner is what you need?, this sometimes have to deal with your stress and worries alone. 

Are you constantly compared with someone else by your partner?, especially when the comparison is not in your favor. Take a break and think for a moment, maybe the horizon of your relationship are becoming so apparent as you believe them to be.


In this Post, 10 Signs Your Relationship is At the Verge of Falling Apart, you will get to know some frequently occurring situations. perhaps, they will help you to see your relationship from a new perspective.

1. UNEQUAL SPENDING OF MONEY AND TIME ON COMMON NEEDS

Everyday, you go out of your way to hurry for groceries after work and cook breakfast, lunch and dinner maybe because your partner is someone who's used to eating well? You get another job because you can't afford the whims of your beloved, aren't your wages enough for two? Don't you think it's unfair and you know it's even more unfair when it is you who always sacrifices their feeling.

You would probably agree that sometimes there are cases when you have to put aside what ever you feel to support your partner in a very difficult and challenging situation, but if you have to do that constantly, well it sucks. If the ground around partner seems to be covered with eggshells and you are walking on them, start to think very soon you will feel completely emotionally drained and exhausted.

2. WHEN ONLY ONE OF YOU BENEFITS FROM LIVING TOGETHER

Your partner lives in your houses, and you share food expense equally?, Either of you has several bottles of products in the bathroom bought specifically for yourselves?, You cook and clean up in turns?, Seems everything is all right here. But still unfair!!! Also it's very unfair in such a situation when there is no talk about the future when that is all you are waiting for. 

Sure it doesn't refer to partners who've been only dating for a short period of time otherwise it should be an alarming sign if your partner tries to avoid speaking about the future of your relationship by any means they might not take it seriously or don't see you as their life partner. And it is just not fair to you.

3. ILLUSORY FINANCIAL AND PERSONAL INDEPENDENCE

You don't offer each other financial support in times of trouble because everyone knows money spoils relationships. There's even a saying that goes, "If you want to lose a friend, lend him money." It's Unfair!. Another alarm bell here is that you are independent from each other not financially but with your free time as well.

One day, you must catch yourself thinking that you would rather spending evening or two with your friends rather than with your partner. It's absolutely normal to spend time away from each other from time to time but if this thought becomes your constant companion and if you don't dream on having some quality time tete-a-tete with your partner, ask yourself " Is this relationship working a it should?".

4. YOU HAVE NO ONE TO RELY ON AND TO TRUST

You know for sure you can't afford to fall ill because no one would take care of you?, You think your partner will do well without your care because they're not your child?, You can't ask them to look after your pet or flowers while you are away?.  You should know for sure that there's definitely something wrong with this relationship. The reason for more concern is more evident if there's no trust.


Does your partner let you down all the time?, they cancel meetings, forget about birthdays, fails to buy a much-needed medicine. It's upsetting frustrating but worst of all it also kills the trust that exists between you. And what kind of a relationship can it be without trust?

5. FACE TO FACE WITH STRESS

You quit trying to tell your partner about your feelings because you know there will be no compassion?, all you will hear will be a bit indifferent: " Don't worry, everybody fails. You'll get over it." Oh, maybe you have just heard a warning bell that your relationship is breaking apart!.

You don't ask each other for advice because you have no idea what the others life is about. You don't feel support when you desperately need it, that's definitely not a sign of a harmonic relationship. Sometimes, your beloved instead of trying to help you to cope with the stress of everyday life, adds to it in a very peculiar way. 

Answer one question please. Does your partner like to correct you whenever an opportunity arises?. Well, it helps them to feel on top, making you feel stupid or belittle especially if it is a common occurrence. If your position seems to be constantly one down, don't put up with it. You are worth so much more.

6. YOU DON'T  FEEL LIKE MAKING AN  EFFORT TO HELP EACH OTHER

Think of your friend or your partner: Would you make a sandwich for them? How about taking them out to dinner? How about taking thirty minutes to drive them to their work? What if they're sick and they need you to take care of them? Although these scenarios are increasing in difficulty, you probably would do them for someone you really care for, at least once. But if you don’t want to make this kind of effort for them, then your relationship might have some underlying issues that need addressing. Without effort, you have no relationship and your marriage will be falling apart.


7. BLAMING FOR NOT BEING ABLE TO DO "TYPICALLY" MALE OR FEMALE WORK

You're approached for not being able to repair a leaking pipe in the kitchen?, You are ashamed for your pasta which is not nearly as delicious as your partner's mom's?, You're required to start earning " Like A Man" or be " A Good Housewife"?, It's not Fair!!!. And if such approaches are followed by the silent treatment, too bad. It is a kind of emotional manipulation.


 You are unaware of what to expect and perhaps don't even know what you have done wrong. Accordingly to psychologist, the person who uses it longs for power and control of the situation. But that's not fair.

8. OWN INTERESTS ABOVE ALL ELSE.

You find that you've got too little space on the shelves, although you occupy less than half?, Several of your canvas have been thrown out because " Now it's easier to breath"?, Your needs aren't equal to your partner's?. Do you believe it's exactly the way relationships works?. And just maybe you don't feel loved. Every person's on this planet want to get some love, it's natural and if this needs isn't satisfied by your partner or if they don't even know how to make you feel loved, it could mean  the relationship you have might be doomed. 

9.  SOME SECRET ARE FLOATING AROUND

If you have that gut feeling that something is going on behind your back, or that your partner has checked out, you're (sadly) probably right. And one indicator of this is secrets, or the ever-present suspicion of them. "They have become more secretive about where they are, who they are with, [and] who they are talking to," Martinez says. Of course this can go both ways, so take note of your own desire to be sketchy and secretive.

10.  TOO LONG SPACE OF TIME WITH NO ROMANCE

Every day doesn’t have to be filled with amazing things. There will be hard patches with lots of darkness and a few bright lights in the middle. But when the relationship feels like it's stuck in a dark tunnel with no lights visible ahead, there might be a problem.

One last thing to remember. If you feel any kind of dependency from your partner, be it emotional, psychological or financial dependency. It's an important sign to rethink your relationship. Sometimes it is not too late to come to a compromise or persuade your partner to change their behavior. 

If you have ever found yourself in a situation similar to any of the one we have described, kindly share your experience using the comment box below. Remember to Share this post to your friends.

If there is anything I got wrong also or if you have a differing opinion, let me know in the comments below. Thank you and good luck to you all!


10 Signs Your Relationship is At the Verge of Falling Apart 10 Signs Your Relationship is At the Verge of Falling Apart Reviewed by Damilare Ben on Monday, July 23, 2018 Rating: 5

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