9 Best Relationship Books Every Couple Should Read Together

Many couple find themselves moving from one counselling room to another, even to the extent of seeing a therapist concerning their relationship. They move about seeking answer to why their spouse just won’t behave and do what they desperately need them to do, making them heartbroken, disconnected, misunderstood and feel completely and utterly broken.

What I will say concerning this is that many of this 21st century couples thinks that mere being together for some period of years makes them so compatible. Should I say they lack the knwoledge that being in a relationship is more than just being together. 

As it has been said, Knowledge is power. So if you are in a relationship out there and you want this your relationship to be the best of the relationships you have had so far, reading this quality books which are amongst the most popular, best rated and best reviewed books on relationships with your partner would go a long way in strengthening and repairing relationships from a wide variety of angles. Some of these books give couples tools they can use to build strong relationships. Other books focus on how to get rid of the bad habits that drive our partner's to distraction.

 Here are my suggestions, Let's Get to It.

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1.  5 LOVE LANGUAGE - by Gary Chapman

Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language—quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.

It’s no secret that we’re all different and have different desires. It’s probably also no surprise to learn that we all tend to respond differently to situations. No wonder we don’t seem to be on the same page with our partners sometimes! Luckily, author Gary Chapman has figured out the five different types of love languages that people respond to. By learning the five love languages, you and your partner will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other.

2.  I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship - by Mira Kirshenbaum

If your relationship is worth saving, or if there is any hope for there to be trust in the future? If so, then this might be the right book for you and saving a relationship on the rocks.

Whether the lack of trust is due to frequent small lies, a large betrayal, or even a history of being hurt in past relationships, it can put a strain on a relationship. This is an effective book to show you what you need to do to restore the lost trust in your relationship, no matter how it became damaged.
I Love You, but I Don't Trust You to be a helpful first step to take after a betrayal. It is also a useful tool to use later down the road if a couple gets stuck during the recovery process. People have found that the author's normalizing and casual tone is both soothing and comforting. I Love You, but I Don't Trust You is both realistic and hopeful, which is an effective combination.

Mira Kirshenbaum also help readers understand the stages of building trust once the strengthening process begins to take place. Readers will learn how to avoid their previous mistakes that are keeping them from healing, and rediscover how to connect.

3. “Couple Skills: Making Your Relationship Work”- By Matthew McKay PhD and Patrick Fanning

This is a very helpful book that will demonstrate how to work effectively in your relationship. Some of the key skills focused on are: improved communication, coping with problems, and resolving conflicts in healthier ways. 

This version of the book teaches the reader acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), which helps each person to accept his or her partner’s feelings and emotions, without resorting to judgment. This book helps the couple decide what is important to them, and put these skills into practice.

4. The Relationship Cure - by John Gottman

 Gottman, the guy who talked about the Four Horsemen of a dead relationship. Though you might know Gottman for that, there's so much more that he's done in the world of making relationships better and healthier.

The Relationship Cure is one of the best books for a healthy relationship with more than just your partner; it works wonderfully with friends, family, and coworkers, too. Using this book will help you identify your relationship issues, and how to solve them proactively. Need we say any more?

5. Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work - by Dr. John Gottman 

   Dr. John Gottman along with his wife Julie Schwartz Gottman, have spent years researching couples in their Seattle “love lab.” The lab is an apartment of which couples “vacation” for a weekend, but in which there are cameras watching their every move and the couples are hooked up to microphones and electrodes to monitor even small changes in heart rate during an argument.

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Hours and hours have been studied in this lab; consequently, Dr. Gottman now professes to be able to tell if a couple is headed for divorce within minutes of meeting them, and he bases the prediction on key behaviors of which he observes in his couples. He calls the actions the “Four Horseman of the Apocalypse.” In this book are seven principles which come from years and years of research, and they are definitely worth examining and practicing!

6. Hold Me Tight - by Sue Johnson

This is my number one book love for couples who come to me enraged, bitter, disgusted and even abusive. For couples who can’t move past the immense amount of anger that plagues them on a daily basis, this is the book for them. There are stories in this book of which most couples can relate. Dr. Sue Johnson talks intimately about the push and pull we have with our partners – the yelling in anger, the withdrawing, and the seemingly manipulative behavior that keeps us locked in power struggles and spirals of misunderstanding.

This book has the best reviews in NYT and Time magazines- considered as having the highest success rate for helping couples understand their attachment bond and offers useful emotional tools for improving relationships. This is a particularly good read for high conflict couples.

7. Attached - by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A.

This is one of the most important books for couples.  This book Attached explains different attachment styles and how they impact our experience in romantic relationships. Most people fit into one of three basic attachment categories: anxious, avoidant, or secure. Read this book to Figure out which one you identify with most and also understand your partner’s way of relating. This is essential reading.

8.  Feeling Good Together – by Dr. David Burns 

We all have someone we can’t get along with—whether it’s a friend or colleague who complains constantly; a relentlessly critical boss; an obnoxious neighbor; a teenager who pouts and slams doors, all the while insisting she’s not upset; or a loving, but irritating spouse. In Feeling Good Together, Dr. David Burns presents Cognitive Interpersonal Therapy, a radical new approach that will help you transform troubled, conflicted relationships into successful, happy ones.

 When couples come to me unable to talk to each other in cohesive, rational ways, this is the book I suggest. Most couples have some communication tweaking to do, without a doubt. This book outlines specifics of intimate language in a way that anyone can understand and begin using immediately.

9. A Man's Way Through Relationships by Dan Griffin

Last, but absolutely not least, is one of the best books for a healthy relationship that's specially written for the guys. A Man's Way Through Relationships is one of the very few relationship books that's specifically tailored to the inner struggles men face with women.

If you think your guy has problems and dealing with hard times to figuring out his role, or if he's trying to make the relationship work, This Dan Griffin's book will definitely strike a chord. Get these books for him and see how to relationship lives will boom.
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9 Best Relationship Books Every Couple Should Read Together 9 Best Relationship Books Every Couple Should Read Together Reviewed by OLOWU BENJAMIN on Friday, July 13, 2018 Rating: 5

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